Tips To Help Transition Your Kid Into Back-To-School Mode

Change and life transitions can be hard for everyone– children, teens and even adults. Let’s face it whether it was a big move to another city, a divorce, loss of a loved one or break-up we have all struggled to deal with change. If your hope is that your child or teen will grow up to be a successful, well-adjusted adult then it is important to start helping them learn how to not only deal with change but embrace it.

So why wait for a major life transition to occur? A new school year is a great time to start fresh and support your child– especially if they are starting at a new school for the first time. Think back to your first day of kindergarten, elementary, middle, high school, college or even at a new job. What were you feeling? Anxious, excited, vulnerable, nervous, confused, out of place? Those are all the same emotions that your kid might be feeling at this very moment!

So here are 6 strategies to ensure a healthy transition for your kiddo as they embark on a new school year:

Start each day with a healthy breakfast

This first one may seem a little obvious, but it cannot be stressed enough. If your child does not have the proper nutrients in their body they will never have enough energy or brain power to get through the day. So make sure that you keep fruit, yogurt or healthy granola bars (BelVita Breakfast Biscuits are my personal fave when I am on the go) for the mornings when you are running late instead of swinging through the drive-thru or skipping breakfast altogether.

Implement a daily routine (and stick to it)

Hopefully for the past week or so you have been getting the kids to bed at a decent time so they can start getting back into a healthy bedtime routine. If not then this first week back might be a real struggle in the morning. A healthy bedtime routine means going to bed and getting at least 8 hours of sleep. It also means powering off all electronics– tablets, smart phones and even the TV. If you are finding that your child or teen is staying up all night on their phone then it is time to set some boundaries and have them turn their electronics into you before bed. This may mean resorting back to a good ol’ fashioned alarm clock to wake them up in the morning. While this option may sound like an uphill battle especially for parents of tweens or teens– the alternative is a constant battle in the morning waking them up for school.

*I posted a TED talk video last week on the Empowered Wellness Facebook page: Why school should start later for teens if you would like to learn more about the importance of your teen getting enough sleep.

It may be helpful to use a daily or weekly routine chart with your child by using a template found on Google or creating one of your own. Just make sure you set aside specific times for meals including breakfast, lunch, snack and dinner as well as time for homework, chores and recreation. Using a daily schedule and sticking to a routine will also teach your child invaluable time management skills.

Set aside down time

As I mentioned above, it is important to allow your child free time for recreational activities during their afternoon. Just like adults children need time for themselves to engage in activities they enjoy so they can relax and relieve stress. Structured activities such as after-school programs, clubs and sports may be best for kids and teens who would otherwise be unsupervised during afternoon hours. If you are home with your child after school allow them to choose their free time activity (watching television, playing games on the computer or going outside with friends) but set a firm time limit such as an hour to avoid a power struggle.

Reinforce positive behaviors

Although many kids may be excited to head back to school and see their friends, some children especially those who have been bullied, have low self-esteem, anxiety or depression may be struggling to adjust and manage their emotions this week.

You can easily encourage them to keep up the good work and reinforce early on the importance of attending school regularly through rewarding good behavior. Did your kid get sent home with all of their stickers today or a positive note from the teacher? Then swing by the dollar store and let them pick out a new toy or allow them to play on the tablet for 30 extra minutes. The reward does not have to be expensive or time consuming. The key is letting your child know you are proud of them and recognize their efforts!

Empower through positive self-talk

I mentioned in my previous blog post that the first step to empowerment is through daily affirmations. This is especially important for kids and teens as well. The great part is there are lots of ways to make teaching positive self-talk fun for kids through arts and crafts ideas such as a self-talk flower or self-talk cards.

The best way to teach your child to use positive self-talk is to model this behavior for them. If your child sees or hears you using positive self-talk and daily affirmations then they will be more likely to do the same.

Don’t forget to take care of yourself

Last but not least, you cannot be a rockstar parent if you are not taking care of yourself first. The new school year can bring a lot of stress to parents as well with open houses, back to school shopping, after school activities and feeling like you’ve been waiting in the dreaded car line for hours. If you are constantly running on fumes, then you are not your best self and you are putting your health at risk. Take time for yourself, exercise, get enough sleep, eat healthy and stop telling yourself that self-care is selfish.

In sum, life can be overwhelming whether you are 6, 13, 19 or 40 years old. It is important to teach your kids (and maybe re-teach yourself) that the best way to deal with stressful times is to take care of yourself first. Then help them refine the skills they need to feel empowered and ready to take on the world– whether it is coping skills or life skills such as organization and time management. The more empowered your child feels, the more resilient they will become.

— Amanda Schofield, MA, Registered Mental Health Counselor Intern

5 Ways to Start Empowering Yourself

Have you ever been in one of those life ruts– you know the ones where you feel like life has got you down, nothing seems to be going right and your daily routine has become mundane. Perhaps on more occasions than you would like to admit, you have thought about up and leaving your life to pursue your passion or go on a dream vacation. Maybe your love life could use a boost or maybe your boss doesn’t give you any credit for all the hard work you put in. Wouldn’t it be nice if all of a sudden your life got more exciting? Maybe you found a new love interest or you didn’t wish your whole week away with hashtags on social media like  #itsonlyTuesday #humpday #Friyay!?

The truth is life is not going to change on it’s own.. it’s up to you to take control of your life and pursue whatever makes your soul happy.  And that is where the word empowerment comes in. So what is empowerment? Well according to Google, “it is the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights”. Let’s take a look at 5 ways to start empowering yourself to live a happier, healthier, more well-balanced life.


This one may seem simple enough, but how many of us actually come up with a daily affirmation each day, write it out and repeat it throughout the day? Probably not very many.

Personally, I recommend the Five-Minute Journal: each day there is a quote or challenge to read, you jot down 3 things you’re grateful for, 3 things that would make the day great, an affirmation and at night 3 amazing things that happened and how you could have made the day even better. That’s it– simple, easy, 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes at night to get you focusing on the positives in your life! But of course, you can always resort to the good old-fashioned sticky note on your mirror.

Add Adventure

I am not saying quit your job today and go travel the world without a dime to your name. For those of us who are not millionaires, I am suggesting you start by trying something new here and there such as going to a yoga class by yourself or taking up a new hobby. A great place to start is where you can connect to new people with interests ranging from book clubs to outdoor activities, music, food and drink– you name it. Just make sure you pick something that is out of your comfort zone so you are challenging yourself for personal growth.

Associate Yourself With Only Positive People

This one can be a little tricky, but it is a must if you truly want to empower yourself. First evaluate those in your inner circle: family, friends, romantic partners, mentors, etc. Next ask yourself: Do they support me? Do they celebrate my successes? Do they believe in my hopes and dreams? Do they constantly complain or speak negatively about others? Do they inspire me? Do they challenge me to be a better person and accomplish my goals?

If you answered no to one or more of those questions then you need to seriously re-evaluate the people you let into your inner circle. And if you suddenly feel like you need new #squadgoals then sit down and make a list of the qualities or traits that you desire in a friend, colleague or confidant. Again, this might take a little of getting out of your comfort zone to put yourself out there and meet new positive people!

Actively Focus On The Present

This step is better known as practicing mindfulness and can be really challenging for those of us who are always on the move– or worse who are always thinking and over-analyzing. Sometimes it may seem down right impossible to turn off our brains and solely focus on the present moment. But I promise you it is in the moments of anxiety or depression that you need mindfulness the most. Something I always tell clients (and myself) is that when we dwell on the past, we tend to feel depressed and when we stress over the future, we tend to become anxious. If you need some ideas on how to incorporate mindfulness into your daily routine, you can pick up CALM 50 Mindfulness and Relaxation Exercises To De-stress and Unwind from Barnes and Noble for super cheap!

[Be] Attuned To Your Body

The bottom line is you cannot improve your mental health, if you do not first work on your physical health. These two things are more intertwined than some people might think. For example, studies report that over 75% of all doctor’s visits are for stress-related complaints. Think about it– your heart problems, your body aches and pains, your sleep problems, your digestive problems and even your acne can all be caused by stress or at the very least it can increase your susceptibility.

Take a minute and do a body scan to listen to what your body is telling you. What does it need most to heal right now– Exercise because you have been sitting at your desk all day? Yoga because your muscles could use a good stretch? Water because you are dehydrated and have been drinking caffeine all day? A doctor’s visit because you can’t remember the last time you had a physical? Whatever your body may need in this moment, listen to it. Your mental health will never improve if you are not taking care of yourself physically.

It is never too late to reinvent yourself, but just remember a total life change won’t happen overnight. So start off by implementing these small changes and show yourself some compassion in the meantime– its okay to be a work in progress!

Amanda Schofield is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Registered Yoga Teacher in Oviedo, Florida specializing in a variety of mental health concerns including anxiety and stress in children, teens and young adults.